Introversion has become cool online – but what about the real world?

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Today’s guest post is by fellow introvert and Life Coach Rosemarie St. Louis.

It feels like everywhere in blogosphere people are talking about being introverted.  Right now, it is hip and fun to be an introvert.  Introverts are connecting with each other on-line, joining facebook groups, networking and logging into forums etc.  It is a wonderful breath of fresh air to finally discover that you are not alone in the world – or weird!

So far, so good.  You are getting the support you need amongst like-minded individuals.  The thing is, blogosphere introversion and real life (RL) introversion are completely different!  In blogosphere you get virtual support, companionship and camaraderie, whereas once back in RL, you can feel isolated pretty quickly.

So what if, like me, you’re straddling two worlds?  Maybe you’re building a heart-based on-line business whilst also spending time at your day job in RL.  How do you manage your introversion and sensitivities then?  What are the strategies you can use to ‘protect’ yourself from what can sometimes appear to be a harsh world?  A world where sensitivity, introversion and quietness are often undervalued whilst being at ease in groups and extraverted is held in high regard?

Here are my top 3 tips for protecting your introversion & sensitivity:

1. Grounding yourself

I can usually tell when my foundation (or first chakra) is unbalanced because I tend to over-worry, stress-out and feel insecure.  On the contrary, when my foundation is balanced, I am calm, quietly confident and intuitively expecting the best.

 There are various ways to get grounded:

  • Meditation
  • Yoga – can you attend a lunch time yoga or pilates class during your day job?
  • A walk around the block/in nature
  • Placing both feet on the ground and paying attention to your breath (breath gives us life and is the source of our power)
  • Siting in a quiet café where you can read, journal or ‘just do you’
  • Sleep, rest and relaxation– are you getting enough?
  • Being at home when you can to recharge
  • Epson salt bath
  • Crystals – good grounding crystals are : red jasper, black obsidian, clear quartz, citrine, tigers-eye and garnet amongst others

2. Feeding your spirit

Create what I call a heart-list in order to feed your spirit the beauty it needs.  Write down at least 20 things that you love to do and then do these things on a regular basis.  For example, if you like to get out of the city at the weekends and go to the countryside – then make a point to do that.  If you like to paint then do that.  I like to cook & bake at home on the weekends.  Decide what it is you LOVE (or think back to what you used to love, e.g. maybe you used to write short stories or sing in a choir) and check-in with yourself; is this something you would like to go back to?  Doing what you love brings joy and feeds & strengthens your spirit.

By the same token, limit negativity in your life.  If you’re an introvert chances are you are a sensitive person or even a highly sensitive person (HSP);  If so, you will find it prudent to limit as much negativity from your life as possible.  Limit your time being around negative energy in any form or watching late night news on the TV or crime shows.

3. Honouring your Intuition

Intuition and introversion go hand in hand in my opinion.  Always remember that you are intuitive and relish in it.  Stop pushing your intuition away during your day job and start to integrate this side of you into your whole life.  Listen to the still small voice.  Feel into it.  Trust your feelings.  They are real.  Pause before you act or speak.  Ask yourself – what does my heart say?  And act from there.  Keep a little book in your bag and one at home so that you always have a notebook handy.  Write down your thoughts and feelings and intuitive hits.  You can use this method to validate your intuition.  This will help it to grow stronger.


What are your thoughts on this post? Do you ever find yourself struggling with your introversion in the real world? Leave a comment below!


About the Author:


Rosemarie St. Louis is a Transformational Life Coach who works with women to establish their dream life and/or business by working with them to tune into their hearts and listen to the small voice of their intuition.  She believes in holding the space for you and truly listening for what is going on.  She works with you to find your answers and then take it from there.  She is also a fully qualified homeopath and yoga teacher. You can find out more on her website.

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13 thoughts on “Introversion has become cool online – but what about the real world?

  1. Such a great point, that it’s so different online vs in person! I’m not really an introvert, but CAN be in person for sure. It’s much more of a challenge for me to jump into a real live conversation than an online one.

    • Mmm thanks for the comment Karen; Yes, it’s true isn’t it? Interacting on-line can be so different from our interaction in the real world. I have definitely found though, that the above tips i.e. being grounded, feeding my spirit and honoring my intuitiveness, (and some other practices) have really helped me in the real world to find myself back in my body. If that makes sense?

  2. Interesting thoughts. I am an introvert, but I haven’t always been. I had a long period from my teenage years throughout my 20’s when I was a social butterfly. I got tired of my lifestyle though and gave it up for quieter times with my husband. I love the quiet and being at home, but I also miss being a little more social. Recently I’ve started to spend more time online which in some ways fills that need for sociability, but I know it’s not enough. These are great tips to help me bridge that gap in real life. Thank You.

  3. I can absolutely relate to your post! These are great ways to feel yourself again, which I would like to implement more and more into my life.

    For me it is hard to go outside and deal with the “wrong” real world, lets say a job that I don’t like, being in the city, meeting with friends in a bar, too much traffic and people etc.

    But when I’m surrounded by nature lovers in the garden, then I can be together with other people for hours, be happy and extrovert.

  4. Grounding is so important! Feel more whole and stronger in that regard! I loved this post – coming from an introvert who poses as an extrovert pretty darn well. 😉

  5. Hey Krystal, thanks for your comments. So glad you enjoyed the post and found the tips useful in bridging the gap you need between spending quiet time at home with your husband (I love doing that too) and also the socialization aspect that you require on line….your comments got me thinking…do you think that you were more of an extrovert when you were in your 20’s? (I’m just curious). R

  6. Hey Benya – thanks for your comment! So glad that the post resonated with you! Yes, sounds like we have similar traits there – I often feel the same when in a job I don’t like, bars etc., you can find yourself shrinking into yourself. Sometimes it’s the ‘introversion’ thing. At other times it can be that your values are being trampled on – and of course, often it’s both! So important to know yourself and your values – which is what I am learning to do more and more. Sounds like being in nature is on your heart-list! R

  7. Ahh Bernard! Thank you very much – so glad the post resonated with you. Yes! grounding is just an absolute must! and the first thing to do when we feel unsettled in any way. R

  8. Really enjoyed the article. I resonated with a couple of points. It’s been years since I’ve watched the news – too many negative stories. You inspired me with your suggestion of 20 things I love to do. I’m in the middle of a big project right now, and definitely needed the reminder to take some time for me. I need to get back to doing some sewing or craft projects. I used to really enjoy those activities and the time would just fly by when I got immersed in a project. Plus it totally turned off my analytical work brain. So I’ve just scheduled in an hour or two tonight to work on a (neglected) sewing project for a friend. Thanks for sharing your experiences and insight!

    • Hi Brenda – thanks for your lovely comments. So glad you are going to do something on your heart-list. Sooo important. And your right about being able to do things that turn off your analytical brain. I am sure your going to enjoy your project tonight! Love to hear how you feel afterwards too. R

  9. I realize this is an old article but I’m new to the site and this article really spoke to me. I was a nurse for 25 years which is an extraordinarily demanding profession even if you are not an introvert. For an introvert it can be devastating to your body and spirit which is what happened to me. For years I was at the breaking point when I finally said ” enough”, if I don’t do something different it’s going to kill me. Not only was I not grounded my feet weren’t even touching the ground, I rarely fed my spirit leaving it starved and broken, and had pushed down my intuition for so long it was practically nonexistent. When I reached the point of realizing something had to change I barely recognized myself. That was four years ago, I quit nursing and I’m now working with a landscaper, I’m starting to finally feel the earth beneath my feet, I feed my spirit daily, have reduced the negativity in my life to a minimum and I am once again listening to my inner voice. I still struggle occasionally, slipping back into those old patterns, but now I quickly realize it and stop it – sometimes having to talk out loud to myself. A couple of years ago I was reading about introversion and holy crow THATS ME, I’m not odd I’m an introvert, it was positively liberating. Well sorry for the long post and thank you for the article.

    • Hi Kris,

      I think the key point that you raised is that you now recognise if you fall back into patterns and behaviour that don’t nurture who you are, and instead of feeling stuck, you can instead do something about it. So lovely to read your story and it’s wonderful to hear that you’ve found something that you love 🙂

    • Hi Kris – just read your comments and I’m sorry that I missed it before now. Thank you so much for sharing your story. It really means a lot. And I am so glad that the article spoke to you. I work with a lot of teachers and I believe many of them are going through similar to what you went through as a nurse. How wonderful that you finally got the courage to say “no more” and take a stand. And take your power back. It’s only when we say “no” and “let go” that we can be open to our “yes” and find out what wonders the Universe has in store for us. How fabulous that the job you are now doing is all about ‘grounding’ which you were (possibly unconsciously?) looking for all that time before. Well done! Rosemarie St. Louis.

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