Today’s guest post is by fellow introvert and Life Coach Rosemarie St. Louis.
It feels like everywhere in blogosphere people are talking about being introverted. Right now, it is hip and fun to be an introvert. Introverts are connecting with each other on-line, joining facebook groups, networking and logging into forums etc. It is a wonderful breath of fresh air to finally discover that you are not alone in the world – or weird!
So far, so good. You are getting the support you need amongst like-minded individuals. The thing is, blogosphere introversion and real life (RL) introversion are completely different! In blogosphere you get virtual support, companionship and camaraderie, whereas once back in RL, you can feel isolated pretty quickly.
So what if, like me, you’re straddling two worlds? Maybe you’re building a heart-based on-line business whilst also spending time at your day job in RL. How do you manage your introversion and sensitivities then? What are the strategies you can use to ‘protect’ yourself from what can sometimes appear to be a harsh world? A world where sensitivity, introversion and quietness are often undervalued whilst being at ease in groups and extraverted is held in high regard?
Here are my top 3 tips for protecting your introversion & sensitivity:
1. Grounding yourself
I can usually tell when my foundation (or first chakra) is unbalanced because I tend to over-worry, stress-out and feel insecure. On the contrary, when my foundation is balanced, I am calm, quietly confident and intuitively expecting the best.
There are various ways to get grounded:
- Yoga – can you attend a lunch time yoga or pilates class during your day job?
- A walk around the block/in nature
- Placing both feet on the ground and paying attention to your breath (breath gives us life and is the source of our power)
- Siting in a quiet café where you can read, journal or ‘just do you’
- Sleep, rest and relaxation– are you getting enough?
- Being at home when you can to recharge
- Epson salt bath
- Crystals – good grounding crystals are : red jasper, black obsidian, clear quartz, citrine, tigers-eye and garnet amongst others
2. Feeding your spirit
Create what I call a heart-list in order to feed your spirit the beauty it needs. Write down at least 20 things that you love to do and then do these things on a regular basis. For example, if you like to get out of the city at the weekends and go to the countryside – then make a point to do that. If you like to paint then do that. I like to cook & bake at home on the weekends. Decide what it is you LOVE (or think back to what you used to love, e.g. maybe you used to write short stories or sing in a choir) and check-in with yourself; is this something you would like to go back to? Doing what you love brings joy and feeds & strengthens your spirit.
By the same token, limit negativity in your life. If you’re an introvert chances are you are a sensitive person or even a highly sensitive person (HSP); If so, you will find it prudent to limit as much negativity from your life as possible. Limit your time being around negative energy in any form or watching late night news on the TV or crime shows.
3. Honouring your Intuition
Intuition and introversion go hand in hand in my opinion. Always remember that you are intuitive and relish in it. Stop pushing your intuition away during your day job and start to integrate this side of you into your whole life. Listen to the still small voice. Feel into it. Trust your feelings. They are real. Pause before you act or speak. Ask yourself – what does my heart say? And act from there. Keep a little book in your bag and one at home so that you always have a notebook handy. Write down your thoughts and feelings and intuitive hits. You can use this method to validate your intuition. This will help it to grow stronger.
OVER TO YOU…
What are your thoughts on this post? Do you ever find yourself struggling with your introversion in the real world? Leave a comment below!
About the Author:
Rosemarie St. Louis is a Transformational Life Coach who works with women to establish their dream life and/or business by working with them to tune into their hearts and listen to the small voice of their intuition. She believes in holding the space for you and truly listening for what is going on. She works with you to find your answers and then take it from there. She is also a fully qualified homeopath and yoga teacher. You can find out more on her website.